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What are
YOU looking for in a wedding officiant? What is most important
for you?
Personality and chemistry matter more with
the wedding officiant than any other wedding professional (with
the exception of a wedding consultant). Do you want a wedding
officiant who relates well to you? A more wedding officiant more
authoritative and proper or a more down to earth wedding officiant?
A wedding officiant more outgoing who might be more unpredictable
or perhaps a wedding officiant more reserved and less personal
but safe and predictable?
Every wedding minister has his or her own unique mix of personal,
relational, and technical characteristics. Most wedding officiants
fall somewhere along a continuum. The 1st Choice Wedding Officiant
Inventory™ (if you've seen this on WeddingMinisters.com, now you know where it came from) is a helpful tool for determining
your own personal preferences for your wedding officiant.
Specialized wedding minister or Versatile
wedding minister – The Specialist wedding officiant
focus primarily on doing weddings only. This wedding officiant
excels performing various wedding ceremonies, polished presentation,
almost 2nd nature. The Versatile officiant is more the complete
package, can do more things well, more experienced dealing with
interpersonal and family dynamics and other crucial, non-technical
aspects of wedding.
Experienced wedding minister or Enthusiastic
wedding minister – No substitute for Experience in a
wedding officiant to bring assurance/comfort to couples that they’re
in good hands. Safe. No surprises. Enthusiastic wedding officiant
not dry or boring, brings energy and life to ceremony. Engaging.
Introverted wedding minister or Extroverted wedding
minister – An Introverted wedding officiant tends to
be more calm and unflappable. The more Extroverted wedding officiant
tends to be more personal and engaging.
Warm wedding minister or Polished wedding
minister – The Warm wedding officiant loves people and
people love the wedding officiant. Strong relational attachment
between couples/family and wedding officiant. Polished wedding
officiant makes fewer mistakes, everything done properly and orderly.
Strong wedding minister or Tender wedding
minister – The Strong wedding officiant commands respect,
protects the bride and groom’s wishes, takes charge. This
wedding officiant is particularly good for weddings where family
dynamics are complicated. The Tender wedding officiant is more
sensitive to feelings, a true wedding minister who works for solutions
that everybody can be happy with. Smoothes rough waters.
Elegant wedding minister style or more Personal
wedding minister – This perhaps describes the
character of the wedding ceremony under the guidance of the wedding
officiant more that the wedding officiant him/herself. The Elegant
wedding officiant is beautiful, flawless to perfection. The Personal
wedding officiant is real, the human touch, vibrant with life,
touchable, relational.
Intuitive wedding minister or Objective
wedding minister – The Intuitive wedding officiant
has a marvelous sense of knowing what’s right for the situation,
sensitive to the meaning of the moment, in touch with the couples’
feelings. The Objective wedding officiant takes the guesswork
out of everything. This wedding officiant is clear, usually concise,
nothing left to chance, detailed and organized.
Economical wedding minister or Professional
wedding minister – An Economical wedding officiant
may save you money but lack experience or the skills of a trained
professional minister. The Professional wedding officiant saves
you worry but always costs more. As with anything else you get
what you pay for.
Specialized 1 2 3 4 5 4 3 2 1 Versatile
Experience 1 2 3 4 5 4 3 2 1 Enthusiasm
Introvert 1 2 3 4 5 4 3 2 1 Extrovert
Warm 1 2 3 4 5 4 3 2 1 Polished
Strong 1 2 3 4 5 4 3 2 1 Tender
Elegant 1 2 3 4 5 4 3 2 1 Personal
Intuitive 1 2 3 4 5 4 3 2 1 Objective
Economical 1 2 3 4 5 4 3 2 1 Professional
Seminary 1 2 3 4 5 4 3 2 1 Mail Order
Choosing your wedding officiant comes down to knowing what factors
in a wedding officiant are most important. For example, if there
will be a lot of family input and involvement in your wedding
plans, you might prefer a more Versatile wedding officiant with
ministry training/experience in human dynamics -- particular in
dealing with potentially ticklish personalities. On the other
hand, if yours is a simple, private, backyard wedding, economy
and availability in a wedding officiant may be your primary concerns.
After you've determined what gift mix you're looking for in your
wedding officiant, research and/or ask questions of potential
wedding officiants to see how closely they align with your preferences.
Once you've found a wedding officiant you like, BOOK HIM/HER
as soon as possible!!
My profile leans:
More Versatile wedding minister
23 year Experienced wedding minister (but
being young at heart I confess having fun!)
Extroverted wedding minister
Warm wedding minister, but competent from
training and experience
Pretty even here since both are crucial (reflects
Versatile wedding minister)
More Personal wedding minister
Very Intuitive wedding minister (again, perhaps
reflecting experience/training)
Professional wedding minister (this is what
I do; not just a side business)
If that's a wedding officiant profile you might
be interested in, GREAT! Click the ENTER SITE button on the left,
come on in and learn more! Or if you are getting married in Orange County, click the Orange County link at the top of the page.
Rev. Dr. Charles W. Laird,
wedding officiant / wedding minister
Last updated October 12, 2010
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